Two Guys, A Girl and Getting Her Attention
You have met a girl; cheeky, cheesy, crazy beautiful girl; whom you flirt around during an occasion. Both of you had a meaningful conversation and has giving each other indicators of liking each other.
Getting her attention is the hardest part of initiating in a pre-relationship because in a girl’s mind, giving you her attention easily makes her looks cheap and easy; when it does not look that way to guys who want a fast result and fast delivery. They do not care what linger in a girl’s mind as they would only get the girl for their self intention. By showing effort and with the right way, you are not just obtain her attention but her trust too; as in the “World of Girls” are the most important element in their honour.
Since then, both of you exchanged numbers and other social network profiles; texting and tweeting becoming your daily routine. As you thought that you could bring her up to another level, you suddenly realized there is another eyeing upon her too and that guy is none other is a friend of yours.
Hence, you ended up standing in the fine line of dilemma; either you continuing with the progression or stepping aside, giving your friend a chance to go.
It is even much more difficult to the girl when she have to choose between to guys whom are friends and that terrible feeling that she would get when she actually tied a knot with either one of them.
Thus, the girl have to make a very concrete decision upon on which guy she would lend her heart too. Despite there are two guys who are currently show their interest towards her, she must identify upon which guy that gives out most effort; who call, text and checking upon her consistently; and momentum which does not fade. Therefore, if she decided to choose, the other guy will accept her decision and acknowledge the winner.
But sometimes, it is more complicated than it seems because you put almost everything important in your life at stake; friendship, relationship, romance; and you might loose it all.
Perhaps you can call “dibs” but by declaring it without putting any effort, the other guy would actually stood up front and do the hunting. Then again, calling “dibs” does not work that way.
The nature of a girl that would want a guy who can give her comfort, assurance and make her feel safe, are the major essential keys in which every guy need to understand. You just can’t simply game without the basic knowledge of a girl’s Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. When you actually realized and have the information at the back of your head, everything would be smooth for you; despite competition from other guys.
So, what both of them could do is being a gentlemen within the fair play game and puts out effort but don’t over do it as certain girls would easily being turn off if she founds out both of the guys gives out too much as it would create more jumble in her mind and being much more complicated for her to make up her decision.
From there, she would decide that she would walk out and perhaps choose another guy instead. In the end, no one wins.
Which is why, both guys need to take it slow but in a moderate face; not to be aggressive but being progressive to each other as they help themselves out to be a better man than before.
Personally, the girl should go to the first guy who initiate the spark and since he keep his feeling from being known to the competitor; which is also his friend; it is the responsibility of the girl to tell the second guy to step back and tell him that another guy is currently trying to know her well; without giving out the identity; which may cause a lengthy episodes of future drama.
Yet in the end, it is not about who is the worthy ones; but it is about who gives out the best effort and continue to give her even though both of them is already in a relationship.
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