When we’re falling in love, we can sense it. Our heart beats rapidly, our cheeks blush, we keep on smiling every time we remember about that person, heart jumps out of joy even when received a text despite it is just one word; we don’t mind all of that because we’re in love.
But what if that person likes us too?
Perhaps some of them would have a happy ending and starting a new journey with their love one but what about some of them who would not escalate to the next level?
This is because they are afraid of the expectation that they want in the relationship. Some of them are afraid because of one’s differences; age, culture and background; and some are afraid of being hurt again. Let me tell you. It is not because of the these reason that makes you fear of commitment.
By all mean, the main reason is not your fear towards love but your fear towards being abandon.
When we are in a relationship, we depend towards our partner to give the feeling of being need, a sense of belonging, kinship and assurance. With all that, we feel that we are complete; no matter what will happen to you next, as long they are there, you feel happy.
Hence, when they are gone, you will not receive those pleasure anymore in which will cause a side effect because this pleasure is addictive; but lacking or loosing it will create a ‘loss’ deep in the heart.
Those are the expectation that every person wants, it’s the content of love that they want to feel, it’s the significant of the relationship they want to adhere.
Once we have it, we don’t want to loose it but what if it does?
This question is the main reason why you could not move on with your past relationship and at the same time the valid reason why you do not want to love again.
Differences comes in various shape which will influence the decision that we are not suppose to do on the first place.
Age perhaps would be a factor but one thing about age that it change; it’s just a figure. Even though you’re 16 and he’s 24, feelings cannot be put aside especially when both of you like each other. Even if you try to do so, it will kill you because both of your heart already become one and to make it apart would just create bleeding when you try to rip it apart.
Self different background might haunt your mind. In a relationship you hope that it will last, until marriage but what if he’s from different part of the world different religion, different lifestyle. Perhaps he would want to change just for you but it’s for you; not for your religion, not for your culture, not for your world. And it would be hurtful trying to see him coping with all these new things.
You might say that both of you could end up to become a couple but when your end expectation of the relationship is marriage, you decline to utter “yes” due to the reason, according to you, that both of you will not end up with each other. Therefore, it will cause a shatter to your heart if it happens.
In the previous relationship, the person hit your heart badly, left you with bruises towards your feelings until you feel traumatized by it; in which caused you to have a hard decision to give a final say to the next guy that you actually like; which he even confessed to you that he like you without ever realizing that you like him too in return.
Taking note from all these situation, did you know that you are just being selfish? You try to protect yourself from potential harm that perhaps would be your happy ending. The person that you like whom in time will develop to be a person that you love will pay for it.
When you say “No” to a guy due to all reason in the world; guys would take it as “Try next time” and what if he says that he will wait for you. The longer he waits for you,the stronger your feelings is going to be towards him but your keep him waiting; like a clown. Aren’t you making him suffer? Despite you told him to find someone else although you love him, he stays, he keep you company, he is there when you need someone to talk to. Can’t you see or are you blind?
Every person who live in this world have one similar right and it is they deserve a change. It’s either they are opt for it or someone has help them so.
In this matter, he deserve a chance and it is not right for you to denied them. Love is a risk and perhaps that is why you won’t take him in despite your heart already has.
Our life is full with risk; crossing the road for example and worst case scenario that we will hit by a vehicle; as so much love and break-up will not give any up to par to it.
If the risk happen, it will make us any stronger.
Don’t be afraid to love. Be brave to accept and to cater because from there you will appreciate someone better than the previous and best compare to your next.
If you let those differences becoming your barriers, one day he will walk away and there is no turning back.
It is better to regret now if the relationship does not work out eventually; at least you’ve tried and giving him a chance he deserve; compare you regret it 5 years later for not doing it as you don’t know if it will bring you to a happy ending at that exact moment.
Love, give them a chance and cherish; as in return, you will be a fighter for your love.
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